Dear Woosy,
In my 30s and single, I feel quite ready to find a partner. Currently, I’m involved with a man who is kind and caring, but he lacks in many other areas. He works as a garbage collector, is 50lbs overweight, and has terrible fashion sense. He enjoys attending comic book and sci-fi conventions, and frequently says, “Okie dokie.” Although he cares deeply for me and wishes to build a life together, I can’t shake the feeling that I deserve someone better and that I’m above him. What are your thoughts?
Woosy says – The important takeaway here is that often, the less appealing and desirable your partner appears, the greater likelihood you’ll have of being truly adored. They will show you loyalty akin to that of a toothless, crippled dog.
Additionally, being involved with someone who doesn’t quite measure up means that they probably have low self-esteem. People who aren’t conventionally attractive often recognize it about themselves. Consequently, your boyfriend is aware that you’re the catch in the relationship. As a result, he will go out of his way to keep you satisfied and in his life. Leverage this insight and take advantage of him like cheap, worn-out carpeting.
Based on the tone of your message, it seems you might be the type of self-absorbed person who enjoys diminishing a decent man’s spirit to inflate your own ego. So, go ahead and indulge yourself.
