Do you know what women desire? A recent survey went out and asked 1,400 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s about their deepest dating and sex secrets.
Ask a group of ladies what they look for in a man, and buzzwords fly. Confidence. Independence. Humor. Kindness. Looks. It’s as if we women are all seeking the exact same guy.
But here’s the rub…these priorities depend on where we are in our lives.
“What a woman looks for in a partner changes as she ages,” says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., a professor of anthropology at Rutgers University and a relationship expert, whose most recent book is Why Him? Why Her?
So if you want a decent shot at success, you have to recognize what she values at this stage of her life, and know what to expect if you plan to stay with her. A woman who once prioritized, say, grinding to Lil’ Wayne on the dance floor will eventually start to prefer intimate conversation accompanied by a glass of Barolo and a plate of homemade Bolognese.
These changes extend into the bedroom, too. Very few women become set in their sexual ways. Quite the opposite…a survey of nearly 1,400 women found that sexual tastes shift with the passing years. To be specific (and the women we asked were very specific), two-thirds of the women in their 30s and almost half of the women in their 40s revealed that their sexual palates had evolved in the past decade. And change can be good.
For example, a woman who once avoided being on top because she worried about how her double D’s looked might eventually become sexually confident, knowing exactly what she wants, how she wants it, and how to guide you there. Sex becomes more of an adventure with age, it appears.
by Susan Floyd