Reflecting on our dating histories often leads many of us to question how we ever found men so mismatched.
However, recent studies indicate that this is entirely typical, showing that women’s preferences evolve with age and confirming that for every life stage, there exists a ‘perfect man’ for women.
The findings highlight that from young women seeking a charming companion to more seasoned daters in search of an intellectual mate, the characteristics women prioritize in a partner frequently change as they age.
According to the annual LoveGeist report by match.com, which examines shifting societal perspectives on dating and relationships, misconceptions about declining standards in later life are debunked, demonstrating that women over 55 actually hold the highest standards when it comes to choosing a partner.
Dr. Cecilia D’Felice, a clinical psychologist and relationship specialist at match.com, noted: ‘It’s natural for our preferences to evolve as we grow, reflecting our changing expectations.’
‘In our younger years, physical appearance is often the focus, as we seek individuals to potentially pass on our genes, but as we mature, these “surface attributes” matter less, giving way to a search for deeper connections and new experiences.’
What defines a perfect man for each age in a woman’s journey?
Age 18-24
- Primarily, young women desire a partner they can proudly present to their peers, with 47 percent expressing a preference for someone their friends would endorse.
- A strong physique is appealing: women aged 18-24 are most inclined to pursue relationships with men fitter than themselves.
- At this stage, common interests in music, films, and literature hold greater significance than they do later in life.
Dr. D’Felice elaborated: ‘During initial dating experiences, the need for social acceptance from adolescence continues, prompting us to seek our friends’ approval to affirm our decisions. This age is about building self-assurance, making it vital to feel we’re making the right choices.’
Age 25-34
- In the pursuit of career advancement, women in this age bracket begin to adopt a long-term perspective but remain attracted to charismatic men, with physical allure becoming ever more pertinent.
- Sexual compatibility holds paramount importance for those aged 25-34, more so than at any other phase of their lives.
- Nearly two-thirds mention ambition as a crucial trait to seek in a partner.
Dr. D’Felice remarked: ‘As we gain confidence and dedicate ourselves to our careers, those who share similar ambitions become significantly appealing to us.’
‘During our youthful years, it’s natural to desire dates who mirror our vibrant and attractive sides.’
‘The alignment of ambition and appearance reflects these formative years as we define ourselves and clarify our desires.’
Age 35-44
- Women aged 35-44, aiming for stability, find themselves increasingly attracted to older men, with 73 percent open to dating someone over five years their senior.
- At this life stage, social etiquette becomes essential; fewer than 1 percent of women surveyed indicated they would consider a man with poor manners.
Dr. D’Felice stated: ‘As our focus shifts towards commitment and family, priorities evolve.’
‘Established, stable, successful men with life experience become increasingly appealing.’Very appealing to women in this age bracket, providing the necessary depth of resources (both emotional and material) for a successful partnership.
Age 45-54
- Security stands out as a primary concern, with 95 per cent seeking a partner that makes them feel secure
- For this age group, finding a man with a substantial income is just as important as it is for any other
- Women in this age category tend to be less selective about their dating choices compared to other age groups
- Unlike those a few years younger, women aged 45-54 are more inclined to consider dating younger men, with 54 per cent open to seeing someone more than five years their junior
Dr. D’Felice noted: ‘Women at this point are becoming more confident.
‘With hormonal changes, they grow more assertive, exploring new experiences and valuing their wisdom.
‘They are willing to embrace risks and seek new adventures; while pursuing passion, they also recognize that feeling secure is a crucial component of happiness.’
Age 55+
- As women progress into later life, they seek deeper intellectual connections. For those over 55, intelligence and shared values take precedence, along with a mutual sense of humor
- However, their standards do not diminish with age. In fact, individuals aged 55 and above tend to be more selective in their romantic pursuits than any previous age group
- They continue to prioritize sexual compatibility, with 45 per cent firmly agreeing that it plays a significant role in relationship formation
Dr. D’Felice explained: ‘Subtle developments lead to a more rounded perspective on relationships, highlighting the significance of friendship alongside sexual connection.
‘These women adopt a long-term outlook, believing that lasting commitment needs humor, intelligence, and shared values, which makes them unwilling to compromise. Having gone through various relationships, they have a clear understanding of their desires and, importantly, their non-negotiables.’
by Susan Floyd
