Certain ‘truisms’ about relationships are still prevalent. However, what’s genuinely true and what has been debunked as nonsense?
Myth: Forgiveness requires immediate forgetfulness.
Reality: It’s advisable to forget, but not right away. Studies indicate that if you forgive too hastily, your partner lacks the incentive to change their actions.
Myth: Arguments are detrimental to your relationship.
Reality: Refraining from arguing can actually be more harmful if one partner is suppressing their feelings just to maintain harmony. More crucial than how often you argue is how swiftly you reconcile. The faster you bounce back from disagreements, the happier the relationship will be.
Myth: Settling down leads to weight gain.
Reality: Indeed! On average, individuals gain around 10 kilos during the first year of a relationship. Couples can expect to add 20 kilos each after a decade together. However, this isn’t solely due to complacency; many couple activities are centered around food as opposed to those of singles.
by Susan Floyd
