One of life’s greatest pleasures is making love. For some, a casual romp with a partner or a passionate session with a longtime lover epitomizes satisfaction. They enjoy the rush of sex-related chemicals flooding their bodies, culminating in an extraordinary, orgasmic experience.
For others, the love-drug alone doesn’t suffice. These individuals prefer their dose of desire paired with a potent mix of mind-altering substances.
I’m referring to the concept of sex on drugs.
Do you embrace it or despise it? Have you tried it, or do you find it morally objectionable?
Is it reasonable to engage in sexual activities when you, your partner, or both have consumed something that alters reality, be it by dulling, heightening, or distorting it? Do you find that your sexual experiences are improved or diminished because of this, or does the lack of controlled awareness diminish the essence of mutual intimacy?
In our contemporary society, where pills, powders, and prescriptions are ubiquitous, many will inevitably experiment at some stage. When including alcohol—arguably the most prevalent drug in our culture—it becomes evident just how much sex occurs while under the influence.
Take, for instance, the meet-market scenario. The most frequent place to hook up (especially in Brisbane) is likely a pub, club, or lounge bar, adorned with mood-enhancing music, lighting, and drinks. And if we assume that singles or new couples truly represent those among us engaging in the most sexual activity (excluding adulterers and swingers), then it stands to reason that their initial experiences of lovemaking often involve a lubricant that requires identification or a blatant disregard for regulations.
Why is this? Because, for nearly everyone except the profoundly confident, letting loose and genuinely enjoying themselves may not come naturally.
Of course, the unfortunate aspect of this reality is that many feel they need external substances to unlock their inner potential… that they themselves are insufficient, necessitating these substances more frequently.
It’s even more troubling when those seeking excitement in a long-term relationship view drugs as a remedy for a faltering romance. Personally, I believe that if a relationship is genuinely broken, no amount of substances will repair it, especially if those substances are sourced from illicit channels with largely unknown side effects.
So where does this leave us? Are we in favor of or opposed to engaging in lovemaking while in altered states…out of touch with reality…beyond the present moment? Does a rendezvous while under the influence truly count? Is it an enhancement of authentic feelings or simply a distraction from one’s true self?
by Jeff Millins
