Having a few female friends is always a great idea, as they offer valuable insights into the female experience. They’ll serve as far more useful references than your inebriated buddy who hasn’t been on a date in three years.
In fact, any average guy ought to have at least a few female friends. Normal social development suggests that building friendships with both genders—not just your own—indicates you’re, well, not some weirdo. But putting that aside, let’s explore three types of girls you should avoid being friends with…yet likely are.
The drunk girl.
Surprisingly, there are women who do really foolish things when they drink.
Avoid befriending such a girl at all costs; if you already have, remove her from your life as quickly as possible.
Drunken behavior—whether male or female—can be irritating, but women are generally riskier than your male friends for one key reason.
For a female to get drunk and act recklessly poses much greater dangers. Consider the possibility of returning home with strangers, or getting lost in unfamiliar areas. To add to that, if she’s your friend, it increases the chances of her ruining your evening. If she gets lost in a bad neighborhood, who will she reach out to at 3 a.m.? If your friend Joe does something similar, your wife might be upset. If it’s your friend Karen, however, your wife may start questioning your relationship with her. Time to say goodbye to Karen.
The hater
She remains friends with you solely because you haven’t escalated it to something deeper.
It’s possible you may not even recognize that you have a hater in your circle. She might appear friendly and even relax with you over a drink like one of the boys, but there’s one crucial thing she won’t do: welcome any new girlfriend you bring around. In fact, she’s likely to have issues with every woman you date.
In severe cases, she might even go out of her way to sabotage your relationships. Take a moment to reflect—do you have a “frenemy” like this in your life?
If the answer is yes, she’s detrimental and needs to be eliminated from your circle.
The drama queen
There’s no need to introduce this type of female friend. Her life is essentially one never-ending soap opera.
She can’t even get out of bed without being angry or upset about something. She carries a little black cloud, ready to spoil beautiful days and ruin celebrations. Perhaps the worst aspect of a drama queen is her need for loyal companions to share in the turmoil.
You might not care in the least that someone wore the same outfit as her or be bothered about her ailing toy chihuahua. But she doesn’t mind; she just needs someone to vent to, and if you’re her friend… that’s your role.
Best to sever ties. Move on.
by Jeff Millins
