In a recent survey, it was revealed that young, attractive, and sexually adventurous women today have engaged with three times more partners than those from the 60s. So, does casual sex enhance your long-term love life, or is it wiser to wait for Mr. Right?
Here’s the experience of a 28-year-old woman who participated in the survey:
“My best friend exclaimed over the phone, ‘You’ve done what?’
‘I just had two guys in 24 hours,’ I replied, glancing at my crumpled bed sheets, which had seen more action in a single day than many women experience in an entire year.
The previous night, I had picked up a guy at a bar for a one-night stand, and after he left in the morning, I called a guy who had been pursuing me for weeks…with only one thing in mind…more sex.
I wasn’t shy about sharing my latest escapade with my friends. They understand my love for sex, and I’m proud to say I’ve slept with approximately 50 men over the last ten years, most of which were one-night stands.
For me, sexual compatibility is essential. It’s just as crucial as personality. If there’s no spark in the bedroom on the first day, what can you expect in five years?
If my sexual history scares men away, then they’re simply not worth my time.
I began my sexual journey late, waiting until I was 18 to lose my virginity. I was hesitant initially, but looking back, it seems amusing how monumental it felt.
Why do people exaggerate the significance of sex?
In the following year, I had four additional one-night stands. Most men I encountered in bars or clubs didn’t provide any fireworks. That was until I met Tom, a 25-year-old electrician. The sex was incredible, and I finally experienced my first orgasm. At that moment, I understood the excitement surrounding sex, marking the beginning of my affair with it.
Sex is a natural and healthy experience. It boosts my self-esteem and confidence. Unfortunately, not everyone views it that way. I actually ended a friendship because she disapproved of my lifestyle, labeling me a slag. Meanwhile, she remains with the first man she ever slept with…I think that speaks volumes.
I was raised with conflicting views on sex. My parents divorced when I was young. My dad holds traditional views, while my mum is much more progressive.
Due to my numerous one-night stands, I may face intimacy issues, but honestly, those encounters are often just drunken, physical moments.
I believe it’s refreshing for guys to meet someone straightforward about her desire for sex. Hopefully, they appreciate my confidence and refrain from judging me for sleeping with them right away.
Even though I consistently use condoms, I do have occasional worries about pregnancy and STIs.
However, my current boyfriend is understanding. We were intimate on our first night, share sexual compatibility, and he has no issues regarding my past experiences. Interestingly, he has a somewhat similar sexual history. Plus, he possesses a fantastic personality, and we connect exceptionally well.
Since we’ve both had our share of sexual encounters, we’ve found comfort in each other. Having explored with various partners and without any lingering issues on either side, we’re both ready to advance our relationship into monogamy.
This approach certainly feels like the right path to finding ‘The One.'”
Here’s another account from a 29-year-old woman also included in the survey:
“It’s typically around the third or fourth date that I take a moment to explain to the guy that I won’t be engaging in sexual activity until we have established a committed relationship.
Reactions have varied. Some think I’m joking, while others light up
because they see it as a challenge, convinced they can be the one to win me over…they always end up disappointed.
Just because I bought dinner doesn’t mean I’ll open my legs for you.
At times, it’s challenging for me…particularly when I’m really attracted to the guy and there’s undeniable chemistry. However, I’m resolute in staying celibate in my search for ‘The One’. Oh, and by the way, it’s been four years since I’ve had sex.
I don’t genuinely miss it. All it ever brought me was unhappiness and a series of guys who only viewed me as an object. The man I’m destined to spend my life with shouldn’t be concerned about whether I put out or not.
I recognize that for some, sex is merely a physical act, but for me, it’s also an emotional journey. Perhaps I want it to exclusively be an emotional experience…maybe I just don’t possess the desire to be physical.
I’m ensnared in a cycle of guys who merely want to sleep with me. Sure, they might like me enough to want to be intimate, but I crave more than that…even if I understand that sometimes, that’s the only emotion some guys are willing to showcase.
I did indulge in casual encounters for a time, but that path didn’t lead me to Mr. Right, which is why I’ve decided to take sex off the table.
I dated a guy, and after five weeks, I permitted him to share my bed…for cuddles only. I couldn’t help but laugh when I woke up to find his erection poking me in the back. Though things eventually fizzled out between us, it was refreshing to realize that some guys are willing to wait.
I’m not claiming I’ll never have sex again. It will only happen when I meet a guy who is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship.
The man who respects my boundaries regarding sex will be the right one for me.
Well…there you go, lads. You’ll either settle down with someone who’s easy, or remain sexually frustrated forever. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t bother. Head to the local brothel, grab drinks with your friends, get plastered, and take care of yourself in the bathroom a few times.
by Harry Harper
