If you find yourself somewhat puzzled about how to ace a second date, consider the following tips…they come with a guaranteed success rate…in one way or another.
1. Bridge the gaps in conversation – As you both toy with your napkins, desperately searching for something…anything to discuss. Those pauses can feel awkward, so it’s a good idea to have some topics ready to dive into if the chat stalls.
If nothing else works…just spike their drink.
2. Compliment their appearance – Try saying, “That jacket is fantastic” or “You look incredible!” You’ve both likely invested time admiring your reflections, so make each other feel that effort was worthwhile.
If that doesn’t work…ask them if they’re interested in sex; regardless of their response, you’ll have clarity. There’s no need to waste time on something that’s not going anywhere. If you’re not very confident in asking this, refer back to point one before bringing up the topic of sex.
3. Express your feelings – Share that “I was really happy you reached out” or “I’m thrilled you decided to join me.” There’s absolutely nothing wrong with showing someone you care.
If you’re uncertain about whether they like you…check point one…then move on to point two…after that, you’ll be able to tell if you’ve made an impression.
4. Collaborate on choosing the location to share accountability – If the service is laughable or the food is terrible…does it really matter if you both picked the spot?
NEVERTHELESS…the pub is often the best setting for a first date. If the date isn’t going well, you can either indulge in some drinks or strike up a conversation with someone else.
5. Keep a sense of humor – Navigate any awkward moments with laughter and the chances of a second date will surely improve.
OR…if your date isn’t the most attractive, feel free to burst into laughter at their expense…poke fun at their looks. If they laugh back, it means they have a sense of humor. Consider calling the ugliest friend you have and setting them up together. Honestly, they’ll both likely appreciate the gesture…not just from you, but from each other.
by Harry Harper