Dear Woosy,
For roughly four years, I’ve been involved with my boyfriend on and off. Approximately 3 1/2 years ago, after using the bathroom, he started experiencing bleeding from his rear. He consulted a doctor, who informed him that his lining was torn, though the cause is unclear to me. He frequently eats out and consumes a substantial amount of Coke, so perhaps it relates to his dietary fiber intake. I asked my mother if this could lead to bleeding, and she suggested it might if he were constipated. Although he claims to be constipated, his stool appears normal when I check, and he doesn’t exhibit the sounds typically associated with constipation. He takes some fiber pills, which he asserts have been beneficial, yet he continues to bleed, raising my concerns.
Our sexual activity has never included that area, but I can’t shake the feeling that he might be withholding something from me. I’ve probed him with subtle questions about this issue, and he became very angry when I inquired if he had engaged in sexual relations with a man. Additionally, I am concerned because he is only 28, and I am 24; he doesn’t seem to be very sexually active with me. We have intercourse around three times a month while living together, which seems atypical based on what friends say. I understand that it can be difficult for a man, particularly one who is a police officer, to disclose feelings of being gay. He has acquaintances in the police department who are bisexual, and I’ve heard numerous stories related to this.
If he is indeed gay, I would be fine with that. My desire is to uncover the truth so that he can move forward with his life and I can with mine. Please assist me in overcoming my fears. Thank you.
Woosy says – Rectal bleeding, alongside an appreciation for Elton John, ranks among the primary indicators of potential homosexuality in men. Reports indicate that homosexual men are more likely to engage in anal intercourse. Without adequate lubrication, repeated friction can cause strain on the soft tissue of the rectum, resulting in discomfort or bleeding. Some men, including those who do not identify as homosexual, may still derive sexual pleasure from prostate stimulation, commonly referred to as the “Male G-Spot.” It’s not unusual, even within heterosexual encounters, for a man to desire his partner to insert a finger or another object into his anus for this reason.
I would recommend that you explore this aspect with your boyfriend. Given his profession as a police officer, it’s quite possible that the strong camaraderie among male colleagues may have led to latent homosexual inclinations, irrespective of whether these tendencies have been physically realized. If stimulation with an object does not appeal to him, consider inviting a third party into your intimate space. There’s nothing quite like a threesome to strengthen the bond between two people.
Or, it’s possible that he might simply be suffering from hemorrhoids.
