Dear Woosy,
When I am not home, my husband visits pornographic websites. I haven’t mentioned that I am aware of this, as I believe it would upset him, thinking I have been ‘spying’ on him. He consistently removes the sites he visits from the history, but he is unaware of other methods to track what he’s been viewing.
Typically, when he arrives home before me, he tends to lie about what time he got in, and upon checking, I find that he has been on those sites. It’s uncomfortable to share a dinner table with someone who, just an hour earlier, was browsing www.fuckmyhungryass.com. Just yesterday evening during our toad in the hole dinner, I noticed him looking at me oddly every time I brought the sausage close to my mouth. It completely turned my appetite off, and I ended up making myself some cheese on toast instead.
I would like to understand if this behavior is common among all men. Since he is not frequently alone at home, he can’t engage in this activity regularly, but I still detest the fact that he does. My respect for him is fading, and it’s affecting our relationship. I might also be feeling jealous about him looking at much younger women. At 55 and having recently lost a leg in an industrial accident, I have generally maintained my slim figure and take care of how I present myself. However, the women he views all seem to have two legs. This situation is incredibly distressing. Please provide some assistance; I feel hopeless.
Woosy says – Firstly, I want to commend your courage. Losing a leg and confronting a husband who is clearly sexually stimulated by individuals with two legs must be extremely challenging. If he truly is downloading hardcore pornography, then his insensitivity is unacceptable.
I suggest discussing your feelings with your husband. Living in an environment where even enjoying a sausage becomes a point of tension is simply not sustainable.
