Dear Woosy,
I cheated on my husband – only once – but I’m disgusted I could do that to the man I love.
I’m 34, he’s 35 and we’ve been together nine years, married for just two.
We are very happy, which is what makes it all the worse.
I went away for a what was supposed to be a spiritual weekend with work. I found I was pretty good at a lot of the tasks and the teacher singled me out for praise.
At night we met up in the hotel and he made a bee-line for me.
He was good looking, charming and easy to chat to. I was bowled over, tipsy, and fell for his patter.
Well we started kissing and one thing led to another. Before I knew what was happening I was spreadeagled on the bed with my legs wrapped around my ears.
My husband and I had been trying for a baby nearly three years and I’m now seven months pregnant. I am so worried because my lover was from Ghana and if the baby comes out black I will have some explaining to do. Please help me. I haven’t eaten for over a fortnight.
Woosy says – Guilt and pregnancy hormones are a powerful combination. [As are Ketamine and neat Gin but that is for another day].
Now isn’t the time to make a decision that will affect the rest of your lives.
You know you love your husband, he loves you and wants this baby. If your worst fears are realised you have one of two options. Either you totally ignore the difference in skin colour and act as if everything is O.K. If your husband does bring up the subject simply accuse him of being paranoid and bring up lots of stuff that he has done wrong in the past. Hopefully after some initial concern your husband will put his doubts to one side and come to believe that it was all in his imagination.
The other option involves some deception. There are some very good cosmetics on the market at present. Clinique do an excellent foundation cream which retails at around $35. However over a 40 year period this could become expensive. Also getting your child to apply it through adolescence could prove problematic.
Personally I would go for the total denial/blame route. This technique has kept many a marriage going through difficult times.
