Dear Woosy,
Only once did I cheat on my husband, and I am appalled that I could betray the man I love.
At 34 years old, my husband is 35, and we have been together for nine years, with just two spent in marriage.
Our happiness makes it even more devastating.
I attended what was meant to be a spiritual work weekend, where I surprisingly excelled at many tasks and received praise from the teacher.
In the hotel that night, a charming guy made a beeline for me.
With his good looks and easy conversation, I was swept off my feet, and after a few drinks, I fell for his charm.
We started kissing, and things escalated quickly. Before I realized what was happening, I found myself in a compromising position on the bed.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for almost three years, and I’m now seven months pregnant. I’m extremely worried because my lover is from Ghana, and if the baby’s skin color is different, I will need to come up with an explanation. I’m desperate for help. I haven’t eaten in over two weeks.
Woosy says – Guilt combined with pregnancy hormones can create a potent mix. [Just like Ketamine and neat Gin, but that’s a story for another day.]
This isn’t the moment to make a lasting decision that will impact your lives.
You know your love for your husband is real, and he loves you and desires this baby. If your worst fears come true, you have two choices. You could entirely disregard the difference in skin color and pretend everything is fine. If your husband does mention it, simply accuse him of being paranoid and remind him of his past mistakes. Hopefully, after some initial worry, he will dismiss his doubts and convince himself that it was just his imagination.
Alternatively, you might resort to some deception. Currently, there are excellent cosmetic products available. Clinique offers a fantastic foundation cream priced at around $35. However, over a span of 40 years, this could add up. Plus, convincing your child to use it during their teenage years may present its own challenges.
Personally, I would suggest the total denial/blame strategy. Many marriages have successfully navigated tough times using this technique.
